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Saturday, November 14, 2020 - 00:29

Roommates, Bad Dates, and Soul Mates

Roommates, Bad Dates, & Soulmates-Part 1

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Speaker

Dwight K. Nelson

Since 1983, Dwight Nelson has served as lead pastor of the Pioneer Memorial Church on the campus of Andrews University. He preaches on the “New Perceptions” telecast, teaches at the theological seminary and has written some books, including The Chosen. He and his wife, Karen, are blessed with two married children and 2 granddaughters.

Saturday, August 31, 2019
Program: 
Opening Music
Amazing Grace • Kenneth Logan
Choral Reflection
Blessed Are the Pure in Heart • Patrick Hawes
Songs of Praise
Better Is One Day • Your Name • Agnus Dei • In Christ Alone
Prayer
Rodlie Ortiz
Pioneer Life
GROW Groups
Children's Story
What a Friend We Have in Jesus • Robert Hobby & Kenneth Logan
Worship in Music
Hold On • Spiritual / John Tebay
Homily
"Roommates, Bad Dates & Soul Mates—1"
Dwight K. Nelson with Rebecca Puii Fanai, Alexander Hales, and William Dos Reis
Connect Card, Tithes & Offerings
Pioneer Operating Budget
Prayer of Commitment
The Lord's Prayer • Albert Hay Malotte
Benediction
Closing Music
Be My Vision • Traditional Irish

“Roommates, Bad Dates and Soul Mates”—1
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» Keep this in mind . . .

• Harry Nilsson—“One is the loneliest number . . .”

• Varun Soni, USC vice-provost: “What I have noticed in my work with students is that many of them face the same hidden root challenge: loneliness. . . . I never got the question in my first five years at USC that I now get almost daily from students: ‘How do I make friends?’” (www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-soni-campus-stufent-loneliness-20190...)

• US News & World Report—a study last year of 20,000 U.S. adults “found that nearly half felt lonely at least sometime. And only 53% said they had meaningful face-to-face interactions every day.”
(www.usnews.com/news/health-news/2019-03-11 ...)

• God: “‘It is not good for the man [Adam] to be alone; I will make a companion who can help him [Eve].’” (Genesis 2:18)

• Norway survey of 15,000 people discovered:

– For those 18-29—what matters in relationships is quantity (how many friends do I have?).

– But for those 30-64—what matters in relationships is quality (how deep are my friendships?). (www.greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_loneliness_changes_across_...)

• Stephen Johnson—ask these questions to find out if you have the relationships you need:

–  Do you have at least one person nearby whom you can call on in times of personal distress?

–  Do you have several people whom you can visit with little advance warning without apology?

–  Do you have several people with whom you can share recreational activities?

–  Do you have people who will lend you money if you need it, or those who will care for you in practical ways if the need arises? (In Friendship Factor 24)

» 4 Secrets to Growing Friendships

• Friendship Secret #1—Less of and more of . (Unselfishness)

– Jennifer Schwirzer: “We have all done it, and we have all suffered when others have done it. The monologuist fails to hold an actual conversation. They seem to thrive on the sound of their own voice.” (13 Weeks to Love 56)

• Alan McGuinnis: Ask yourself—

– Do we usually end up going to the restaurant or watch the movie I prefer?

– Do I enjoy correcting factual errors in other people’s conversations?

– Do I use humor to put down my friends?

– Do I have to know more about a topic than others to feel comfortable discussing it?(Friendship Factor 63)

– 1 Corinthians 13:5—“Love is not -seeking.”

• Friendship Secret #2—Let’s ! (Communication)

–  Les and Leslie Parrott (in their book), observe: “Consider this fact: Men say three times as many words in public as they do in private, while women say three times as many words in private as they do in public.” (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts 108)

–  Alan McGinnis: “There can be no intimacy without .” (Friendship Factor 105)

–  Luke 24:15—“[Cleopas and his friend] talked and discussed these things with .”

• Friendship Secret #3—Quit keeping . (Gift of a Good Forgetter)

–  Jacques Vaudre: “Keeping score belongs in competitive sports, not in a mutually supportive relationship. . . . The idea that love involves some sort of quid pro quo, is, at best, evidence of immaturity that needs to be outgrown. At worst, it is a distortion of love that turns two people into unhappy combatants vying for control.” (Six Dynamic Keys 120)

–  Matthew 6:12 NIV—“And forgive us our debts as we also [GK already forgiven our debtors.”

• Friendship Secret #4—I’m willing to so you can . (Self-sacrifice)

– The sacrificial love of a mother for her child

– John 15:13—“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s .”

 

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Neighbor to Neighbor Helps

At Neighbor to Neighbor, we've had a whirlwind year. Our brand new Thrift Store enjoyed a successful opening at the beginning of November, thanks to our dedicated volunteers and wonderful patrons. Sunday, November 22nd, was poised to be our grand dedication service. Restrictions on indoor gatherings had just been issued, so sadly the event was not as grand as initially anticipated.

With over 10,000 square feet of retail space that allows for socially distanced shopping, Neighbor to Neighbor's Thrift Store boasts a beautiful selection of holiday and house decor, well-stocked shelves full of household items, small appliances to make your life easier, gently used furniture and footwear, clean clothing for the whole family, books, games, and so much more.

If you haven't been to Neighbor to Neighbor recently, you're missing out on one of the best shopping experiences in Berrien Springs. Our friendly volunteers are happy to help you find what you’re looking for.

Over the years our Pioneer family has supported us through their finances, volunteers and of course their prayers. However, one thing is missing in all of our improvements and new developments: you! From prayer partners to organizers, from greeters to greens keepers, Neighbor to Neighbor needs volunteers like you with talents like yours.

We always need volunteers with specialized skills who are willing to serve. If you have a talent for janitorial services, landscape maintenance, plumbing, or electrical work, you could be an answer to our prayers!

From Sunday through Thursday, volunteers help make Neighbor to Neighbor's various ministries possible. Our current volunteers invite you to join them in using your time and talents to give back to our community. To volunteer or become part of the Neighbor to Neighbor family of "love in motion," just call (269) 471-7411, or send an email to info@n2nhelps.com. We look forward to serving with you!

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We are so grateful for our Veterans service to God and Country. With that in mind, we wish to update our Veteran's prayer list and ask our congregation to send us the names of spouses, sons, and daughters who are serving or who have served. We also ask you now to bow in prayer for God's presence with and protection of our Service people.

—James North, Jr., Pioneer Veterans Coordinator
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—Earliteen & Youth Leadership

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Make a Difference as an Online Chat Host

Are you friendly and do you enjoy social media? Then, we have a great opportunity for you to be involved in ministry. Through streaming its services on Facebook Live and our website, Pioneer Memorial Church reaches thousands of people every single week. We’re looking to build a new team of local moderators/hosts for our online chat experiences. You could do this from your home. For more information contact Rodlie Ortiz at rodlie.ortiz@pmchurch.org.